Life is organic and as such it is evolutionary and constantly changing. As humans we know this and yet what we yearn for at times appears to us as static – unchanging. We yearn for goals and destinations which we believe once we get to will ‘make us happy’, fulfil our dreams and end our sorrows.
Life doesn’t actually work like this and ever since humanity has existed we have had to face physical, mental, and emotional challenges – not all at once every time unless it’s ‘one of those years’.
Life as we know it has become technology based and as such we are moving more rapidly than ever with our minds and thoughts. Nature is still existing alongside our advancements and appears to heed no-one. It isn’t tamed unless we focus our attention on it and have the tools to do so, and no matter how many gigabytes we use, no matter how much money we spend, no matter how much joy or tragedy we experience the sun still rises and the rain still falls.
Understanding our place in the world is hard and complex in the 21st century. In the 12th Century movement was limited to the number of miles you could walk, ride a horse, or float a boat – humans suffered natural physical tragedies and enjoyed simple experiences. Religion explained the seasonal changes and God or a spiritual deity was the centre of most communities across the globe. Faith was inherent in humanity to an extent which has not been mirrored since the industrial revolution.
Life, as such, is now a complex mix of expectation, desire, achievement, failure, comparison, judgement, accolade, idolisation, isolation, alienation, joy, love, fear and a plethora of other components.
How we handle this complexity is measured by the society we live in and the people around us – be they neighbours, family, friends, friends or acquaintances on social media, work colleagues and in some cases people whom we don’t even know.
Nature doesn’t attend to this complexity. Nature doesn’t feel judged, or elated, or feel the need to achieve- nature just IS. Seasons come and go and plants live or die. In drought some plants thrive and in frost others thrive – all depends upon the needs of the individual plant and where it grows. What soil is right for one is not the same for another, the amount of water needed is specific to the genus of the plant and variety – and indeed how water and nutrients are stored and distributed most efficiently is unique to each plant.
Humans are unique too. Much like plants we have fundamental physical needs such as breathing air, water, food, sleep, shelter and warmth. However as humans it’s our emotional and mental needs which can contribute to a happy and healthy life.
The fundamental principles of coaching are designed to uncover the truths which lie within us and to find the best possible way for us to approach our lives so that we feel satisfied and can live the life we want. The techniques of questioning and self reflection allow you to understand choices made now and in the past – these techniques help you to focus on achieving a life of confidence and where you are in control. These two elements are not present in the natural world because cause and consequence occur outside of the control of everything – no plant or animal can control or affect the amount of rain that falls; no tree or shrub can seek extra moisture which is outside their own root system as they cannot walk to find it. As such plants accept and tolerate the conditions given to them and even over time evolve to change to these conditions. Whilst studying in New Zealand for my horticulture diploma I was fascinated by a term P.W.P… this refers to Permanent Wilting Point. This is the point at which a plant does not regenerate itself under the stress of erosion or trampling, lack of water, or wind damage. It quite literally means the permanent state of non regeneration and this is death. As humans we attempt regeneration from many angles and Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs divides the complex parts of what it is to be human and acknowledges not only our needs physically but also our innate need for emotional and psychological fulfilment. These elements are which separate us from the natural world.